My husband has been in hospice care for 9 months. My granddaughter is graduating from high school and I really want to attend. Should I go?

Thank you to everyone who responded. My darling husband ended up passing away on Thursday morning so I was able to come to my granddaughter’s graduation. Bless his heart for making the decision for me. I am thankful that he is free.

Of course you should go! It will be a break for you, and your granddaughter will appreciate it. Husband's health is going to do what it does regardless if you are at his bedside or not. It's not fair for you to be expected to hover there when an important occasion is going on! Go and enjoy.

I agree, you should definitely go. Seniors make themselves invisible and irrelevant by withdrawing from family gatherings and social events. Grandparents are special. You are special to your granddaughter, so definitely go and have a wonderful time with her.

If you feel there is nothing more eminent than has been the case over the last months, yes, I think you should, though of course your hubby will require a move to respite care. This may be available through hospice, so discuss with them. You might discuss whether or not this is a time, so far as they can judge, that you can take a week off and go to this celebration.

Yes. I agree with everyone else. Please go. I have lived my whole life trying to please my mom. When I finally wanted to try to enjoy my life before it was too late, my mom got dementia. She also was a caregiver for her husband. I think it was stress from being a caregiver as well.

My own mental health has suffered from it so please give her self a mental lift. You need it. I regret living in isolation because of feeling bad about something that I cannot change or help with.

We can never replace time. Please enjoy what time you can. I am sure your grandaughter will love that you came.

I'm sure it is bittersweet to be celebrating your granddaughter's graduation without your husband by your side, missing him and yet not having to worry that he is okay. This is a good time to be surrounded by family and friends and the support they can give you. Blessings to you in the coming days and weeks.

I feel that if it's important to you, absolutely you should go, but if you find it too difficult to leave your husband, can anyone do a live video that you could watch? I've heard of graduations being live streamed as well.

Is he at home, or in a facility? I think if you can make the arrangements with your Hospice team, you should go. It’s a big stepping stone for her, if you can’t go, for whatever reason, find out if they are broadcasting on Zoom or some other platform so you can watch it live. That way maybe both of you can be there.

Yes get someone to stay with him and go enjoy yourself if you don’t you will regret it I took care of my mother for almost 8 years and I would not ever leave my mom I regret not doing things now but if you have anyone to stay you better do it

You husband may be in hospice care, but you aren't! You still have a life to live. There is no reason to feel guilty because of that. My mother lives with me and is in hospice care. Luckily she still has her mental facilities so she can call me or a friend by voice via the Alexa device by her bed. The hospice company will also have someone stay with her if I must leave for a day or so. So far I haven't used that service. Check with your hospice care company to see if they offer that service. Your granddaughter will only graduate from high school once!