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suzonka Asked August 2024

I know my wife hates me or lost love for me, she has changed, I'm 77 she's 68.

I feel like I'm not enjoying my wife going into the past 25 years ago and getting me depressed

freqflyer Aug 2024
suzonka, please fill out your Profile page, so new readers would understand what is going on in regard to your wife. One of your previous posting says you believe your wife may have dementia. Has she been tested for dementia? When was the last time she had an UTI test (Urinary Tract Infection), an UTI can mimic dementia and also cause strange behavior. Her primary doctor or an Urgent Care can run this test. If she has an UTI, antibiotics will help.


If you believe your wife has dementia, then go to the green/blue bar at the top of the page, click on "CARE TOPICS".... now click on the alphabet "D".... now look for Dementia. There are many really good articles you can read that will help you understand about dementia.

lealonnie1 Aug 2024
In your last post back in March, you told us you believe your wife has dementia, which would explain why she's "changed". She probably doesn't hate you, but is acting belligerent with dementia.

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/i-believe-dementia-is-starting-486326.htm?orderby=recent

Why have you waited 25 years to decide you're unhappy?

Go speak to a Certified Elder Care attorney about your options. That's the best thing to do.
funkygrandma59 Aug 2024
Good catch lealonnie. That certainly sheds light on this post doesn't it?

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funkygrandma59 Aug 2024
If you are truly that miserable and depressed, then by all means call a divorce lawyer first thing Monday morning to get the ball rolling to taking your life back.
Only you can make the necessary changes to a better life, and I hope that you will be man enough to do just that.

JoAnn29 Aug 2024
Sorry, this is really a forum for people caring for others. We really can't help you with marital problems. See a marriage councellor.

AlvaDeer Aug 2024
You say you are "not enjoying" your wife and you say you know she "hates or lost love" for you.
My recommendation is a divorce. You can perhaps remain friends that way, living apart, and perhaps can even provide kindness and support to one another. Or not. Either way it is better than living in a household where love and contentment are gone.

I wish you the best.

Geaton777 Aug 2024
This isn't a caregiving issue, so maybe consider personal or marriage counseling before your depression gets too deep.

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