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DayandBaysNana Asked October 27, 2023

If you had 3 family members that needed a lot of care, what would you pay a live in caregiver?

I am a live-in caregiver for 3 people that are bed bound and I am only getting minimum wage.


I'm just asking this question because I am curious.


Thank you.

JoAnn29 Oct 29, 2023
Thisvis the 3 post asking the same question, 2 on the same day.

Im2Young4This Oct 28, 2023
I don't think that is up to you. They will tell you what you will be paying them.
Isthisrealyreal Oct 29, 2023
This is the caregiver asking this question.

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againx100 Oct 28, 2023
This is CRAZY! Why in the world are there THREE bed bound people living in the same house???

You could do two things that I can quickly think of -
1) give notice that you are reducing your hours to whatever you are actually comfortable with (like 4 12 hour days, for example)
2) give notice that you are leaving entirely

Best of luck

Isthisrealyreal Oct 28, 2023
You can work in fast food, even with a felony, and earn 20 bucks an hour.

I would try to find a studio apartment on the bus line and get out of this awful situation.

You do realize that you will be blamed if anything happens to one of these people and unfortunately, with 1 felony you will be looked at differently. Protect yourself and run!

sp196902 Oct 28, 2023
The OP posted another post about this and said she has a 1 felony record and cannot move out because she has no where to go and I believe no car. Basically this OP is effectively stuck in an untenable situation.

We all know OP should move out and get another job but it doesn't seem like OP is going to be able to do this and is effectively now stuck being a 24/7 caregiver for 3 individuals.

OP would be better off living in a homeless shelter and using their resources to find an appropriate job at this point, rather than kill themselves trying to provide care for these 3 individuals.
TopsailJanet Oct 28, 2023
Oh my. That sounds like forced servitude, the "boss" is taking advantage of her. I would call on whatever friends or resources she has to get out of that situation. Staying at it will drain any energy she has left.
Fawnby Oct 28, 2023
You shouldn't be doing this. It's too much for one person. Make it clear to the people that expect you to do this - you can't, you won't and some other provision should be made.

Also, they should be in a facility where they get 24/7 professional care. You can't possibly provide the level of care they need in their home.

Grandma1954 Oct 28, 2023
After reading some of your other questions this is what I would do.
Submit a letter of resignation.
If you want to be nice give them 2 weeks notice.
There is NO WAY any one person should be caring for 3 people.
Not that you can not manage but I think 1 person caring for 3 people with the needs that you describe is not safe for you or them.

BurntCaregiver Oct 28, 2023
I'm sure you already know the answer to your question and really there is no need for you to even ask such nonsense.

Myself personally, I would not be a caregiver to any of my family members. In my experience I find that its better all around when family is not doing the hands-on care.

The more important question here is why one caregiver is caring for three bedbound invalids on their own 24/7. Even if you split the week with another caregiver and have time off. It is still unacceptable to have one person caring for three bedbound invalids on their own.

I was an in-home caregiver for 25 years and now operate my own homecare business. I would never allow one caregiver to care for three invalids. That is not a good situation for the clients or the caregiver.

Find another job and move out of these invalids' house. Don't even argue for higher wages. It wouldn't matter how much the wages are. One person 24/7 for three invalids is unacceptable.

Geaton777 Oct 28, 2023
Are you the only caregiver? If so, this gig is a hard "no" at any wage. This means you have no life and no off time. Are they paying you in cash? Also no. No. Go apply at an agency -- they need experienced people.

Sendhelp Oct 27, 2023
3 people, 3 shifts per day, plus a housekeeper.

Their bedbound needs can best be met by a full staff at a nursing home.

You are not just curious, you may be foolish to even be considering doing this for more pay.
BurntCaregiver Oct 28, 2023
Not even, Send. One person cannot provide 24/7 service to three bedbound invalids even if there is a housekeeper or a full staff of domestic servants.
That is a situation that can get bad very easily. Better to not allow it in the first place.

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