After being on life support and in rehabilitation hospital for months, my mom has been throwing herself on floor. Today she was in wheelchair and pushed her locked chair back so hard that it flipped her backward. It was a good thing I was right there because I caught her head from slamming on the hard porcelain floor.
This was all over wanting a cookie. Her tantrums are quick now and she screams
“c..k sucker and “f..k you” at least 5 times every days, often at 3 am. She also screams out “floor, floor”!
She has had these fits before her collapse but it it much more now. The nursing homes just drug her to keep her quiet and don’t take good care of of her so I don’t want her in there again.
We have no caregiver because the agencies have to staff. She is on Medicaid now and approved for 35 hours but they only pay $12 per hour so we have no help when the private pay caregivers make $15-$20 per hour. I want to help my mom and try to give her a good life but I feel like I am in over my head with all this.
I wonder if if I should let her stay on the floor for now because I am afraid she will get hurt? It’s so hard! It is also going to be hard for me to get down on the floor to change her diaper. Any thoughts?
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I'm not sure what you are trying to say about agency caregivers, surely any caregiver or less hours is better than none?
There is a reason that she was drugged and it's not necessarily to keep her quiet, this kind of behaviour is not only difficult for the caregiver it can and will bring physical harm to your mother, plus being in a state of extreme agitation isn't likely to feel very nice either. I agree you are in over your head and I question how you think you can to keep this up over the long term without doing serious damage to your own health.
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