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JennyMickley Asked April 2021

When do we know it's time for our loved one with dementia to go to a nursing home?

Hi, my mother-in-law has been suffering with dementia, since the start of it, 2015. In Jan. Of this year she went to the hospital with congestive heart failure and very high blood pressure. She was in for 4 days and came to live with my husband and I. We tag team with her cause we have her 24/7.

MJ1929 Apr 2021
She'll get far better care in a memory care facility, because they're trained to handle all those issues. (Be sure to choose one that can provide care until the end.) They also have far more people working for her care than you do.

My mother started showing symptoms in 2014, and my dad lovingly cared for her until his death in 2018. I lived with and cared for both of them the last eight weeks my dad was alive, and there's absolutely no way caring for Mom at home was sustainable. (My dad dying of cancer was the easier patient to care for!)

I moved Mom to a nursing home a couple of weeks after Dad's death, and I'm convinced she'd have been long gone had I not done so. She's been in memory care (and has heart issues, too) since mid-2019, and she's received infinitely better care than even my dad or I, who both loved her deeply, could provide.

Memory care is not a sign of failure or of not loving someone. Seeing to it that they receive the best care possible IS a sign of loving someone.

JoAnn29 Apr 2021
Like daughter said.

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Daughterof1930 Apr 2021
When her care is more than you can safely provide it’s time. When you’re burned out, exhausted, or feeling the effects physically it’s time. When she needs a team of professional caregivers and not just family it’s time. And it’s okay to admit to and accept it

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