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ArtistDaughter Asked August 2020

My brother was POA. He has signed over to me because he is gravely ill. What is the best way to manage my mom's limited assets?

Mom's savings are not going to last her care needs. She has a house that is being rented out and the rent currently goes into her account to help pay for her care. She is in assisted living, but may need memory care soon. I'm wondering about either selling her house to pay for memory care or moving her back into it with 24/7 home care, which she had before going to assisted living. I was her main care giver. That was difficult for me to manage because I was working full-time at my job. Now I work part-time and can maybe manage it better.

NYDaughterInLaw Aug 2020
I would not move your mother back into an old house that may require lots of renovations to make it feasible for her to "age in place" there. Upkeep alone is a huge headache, and you will be the one who is going to have to hire the people who will maintain it. And when something goes wrong - boiler breaks, roof leaks, etc etc - she will have to pay for it. An assisted living/memory care situation takes all of those headaches away.

Call the renters and ask them if they are interested in purchasing the house. If they don't want to purchase it, let them know that you are considering selling the house. Ask a realtor who knows the neighborhood where your mom's house is to check out the house. Normally, it would be late to put it on the market now but the pandemic has changed things, and lots of families are looking to move out of cities. A good realtor will give you good advice.
NYDaughterInLaw Aug 2020
Absolutely, Geaton. Great American cities are being destroyed along with the good people who live in them and the small business owners who've put decades of work into them. Such a disgrace.
Tothill Aug 2020
Are you named on the POA documents as successor? I would first have it reviewed by a lawyer to make sure you have proper legal authority to act on Mum’s behalf.

If Mum’s level of care is increasing, please think long and hard about having her move back in with you. One person cannot provide 24/7 care.

If you sell Mum’s house how many more months of care could you pay for? Would she be eligible for Medicaid when her funds run out?

I have an ongoing Conversation with my mother when she claims she does not have enough money. I remind her that if she sold her home she would have enough cash to more than meet her needs to age 100, she is 86. But we are in Canada and a Subsidized nursing home would cost 70% of her income. A full cost one about $5000 per month.

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BarbBrooklyn Aug 2020
Will the care home or memory care accept Medicaid in your state?

Before moving your mother in with you, please go back and re-read your posts from when she DID live with you.
ArtistDaughter Aug 2020
Yep. And just mentioning it to my sons made them wonder if I need to be committed to even think about that option.
cwillie Aug 2020
The best use of her funds would be to spend some consulting with an elder law attny and a financial planner with a good knowledge of medicaid and related issues, although it may seem expensive it will likely save both heartache and $$ in the long run.
ArtistDaughter Aug 2020
I will do that. Thanks.

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