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Rbuser1 Asked November 2019

Was doing good and like a good FOG riddled daughter, I fell off the plan.

To take things one day at a time. I'm at the library right now instead of home because I can't stand to be around her right now.


We went into town and as usual everything is on her terms and it was no different.


I lost my cool. I took her by my aunt's, her sister and my take away is she is downing me while I'm right there. Very uncomfortable, but since she stayed in the car and auntie came out she was playing little old helpless maw. Now I'm just nauseated by how sick she really is mostly mental.


I know I've said this many times but getting someone like her out of my house takes time but she received a letter giving her a time line for moving-for real-back to her apartment.


I'm over-joyed.


But today-oh man-today. She was making plans for future harassment, but once she is moved that part can go with her.


At least that crap won't be in my face or the next room over.


I'm making a few plans too. Not the least is when she starts screwing up her checking account and other 'business' she might have to find another way to straighten them out. I am really done with being the one accused of messing up her finances and that it had never happened before or just one time. Her favorite each time-'it's only happened ONE time'


This is a vent.


Today when I responded to something she asked me about her medicare or insurance she accused me of being negative. HAA! ya think. She had asked me to help her make a decision about a change in Medicare and she really doesn't know what she's changing-all because she got a letter saying she would have to pay nothing.


Nope, nope and nope. Not stepping in it. Damned if I do and damned if I don't. I choose the latter.


I have enough trouble navigating the system for my own health problems. But wait that doesn't count, does it.


I think this is all for now. I'm going to try to find something to read, if I can concentrate on anything. Kind of having a set back with my emotions today. It doubles when she has to feel worse and be worse as if were a competition. ughhh

lealonnie1 Nov 2019
Yeah, well, sometimes it's one step forward and two steps back, right? Progress is like that. I think you should make plans to take a nice VACATION once mommy-dearest moves out!!! Put your mind towards planning THAT and give yourself something to look forward to (besides the actual move-out, for which you will raise the flag for).
Try to go easy on yourself, ok? You're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances and coming here to vent. Thank God for AC, huh? :)
Rbuser1 Nov 2019
Yes thank God for AC, and that vacation sounds good and it doesn't have to be that far away. I am already thinking about where. Maybe the mountains?
Thank you and take care!!
anonymous912123 Nov 2019
Keep working on you, keep backing off and not engaging her. Let her figure things out on her own.

Mentally walk away from her, it is time to get your life back on track. Sending support your way...you can do this!
Rbuser1 Nov 2019
I did an edit but thank you. I'm trying. She has 2 drs appointments tomorrow. Praying I can just get those done and bring her home so I can get lost again/meaning taking a long drive.  Getting out and away.

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Isthisrealyreal Nov 2019
Great big warm hug!
Rbuser1 Nov 2019
thank you ITRR :)

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