Does your aging parent drink too much?

Hate to sound alarmist ... but ... if she *is* a full-blown alcoholic (and not just clinging to a not-yet-addictive habit), forcing cold turkey on her immediately, without prescription meds and/or therapy, could result in a devastating, and perhaps fatal, withdrawal.

If I were in your shoes, I would consult with a medical professional who has experience in safe withdrawal.

Because of the dementia you probably can’t convince her that booze is bad for her. I’ve struggled with this myself (without dementia). My best suggestion is that you simply refuse to have any alcohol in the house. Perhaps fake a doctor’s reason about your own health – at least you can repeat that easily. If this is a strong habit, rather than full blown alcoholism, the urgency will diminish after about a week (own experience). If the worst breaks loose, perhaps you say that her other option is finding somewhere else to live.

I do buy it or all "H*&&" breaks loose. I have bought her non-alcohol wine. She figured it out when she didn't feel her buzz. I have tried allowing her to have 2 glasses. That failed as well. I think her tolerance is so high. I will start a weaning her or taking her down to two glasses. Maybe I will have better luck.

Can you trick her with grape juice in the wine bottle or something? Or keep only enough for 1-2 glasses in the bottle? How is she getting the wine? If you are buying it, stop doing that.