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My Mother, who is 82, has Dementia and enjoys her wine to the point that it is a problem and I am quite frankly over it! She gets very demanding about having her drinks in the evening. If I left it in the house during the day, she would start earlier, and has done this on occasion when I forgot about it being in the refrigerator. She doesn't have access to transportation and is probably just bored. This is her enjoyment. Drinking and Dementia do not mix well. How can I help her to understand that the wine is not helping her without causing increased tension?

Hate to sound alarmist ... but ... if she *is* a full-blown alcoholic (and not just clinging to a not-yet-addictive habit), forcing cold turkey on her immediately, without prescription meds and/or therapy, could result in a devastating, and perhaps fatal, withdrawal.

If I were in your shoes, I would consult with a medical professional who has experience in safe withdrawal.
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Because of the dementia you probably can’t convince her that booze is bad for her. I’ve struggled with this myself (without dementia). My best suggestion is that you simply refuse to have any alcohol in the house. Perhaps fake a doctor’s reason about your own health – at least you can repeat that easily. If this is a strong habit, rather than full blown alcoholism, the urgency will diminish after about a week (own experience). If the worst breaks loose, perhaps you say that her other option is finding somewhere else to live.
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I do buy it or all "H*&&" breaks loose. I have bought her non-alcohol wine. She figured it out when she didn't feel her buzz. I have tried allowing her to have 2 glasses. That failed as well. I think her tolerance is so high. I will start a weaning her or taking her down to two glasses. Maybe I will have better luck.
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Can you trick her with grape juice in the wine bottle or something? Or keep only enough for 1-2 glasses in the bottle? How is she getting the wine? If you are buying it, stop doing that.
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