Everything I say seems to put my mother in pain. Any advice?

I am not sure how to respond when everything my mother says has a negativity to it. Using words like awful, horrid, brutal etc to describe even the snow fall.

The other day I mentioned that I lost my phone and her face got all twisted and she was acting like someone died and when I was going to get a new one and made it this awful thing...

It causes me to freeze up and not want to engage at all. She's so upset and I don't want to add to her stress by telling her how I feel which is that she consistently makes me not want to be around her.

I also have issues with feeling safe in my emotional space, and having my physical space respected.

I constantly feel under attack and on high alert around her. I just don't relax.

She also thinks everyone is out to get me and demanded some new friend's addresses. I'm 34 and completely frustrated. She's not trying to be upsetting.