Can anyone give me a heads up about what happens when you're out of options for places for a loved one?

Is be in a psych facility right now? If not, that's where you want him, in a senior behavioral unit or a geriatric psychiatric unit. Get him stabilized on meds and work with them to find a new setting with a higher level of care.

Went through this with my mom. She was kicked out of memory care because of her behaviors. Hospice was involved and suggested what was a very nice care home. That facility had 16 residents, and all of them had been asked to leave previous facility. My mom needed a higher level of care. We were fortunate to have a hospice that knew well the options available. The caregivers in this care home all receive specialised training in dealing with the very difficult behaviors.

Bobbycare, a lot of us here have had wonderful results when we've gotten geriatric psychs involved in our parent's care.

It sure MUST be scary! Hang out here, were here for you!

I am not sure how to answer this but I do believe you can REFUSE to take the person back home. Talk with the Aging people in your town. There must be some solution. If your gut says NO to coming home, do NOT allow it or it will destroy YOU.

he is in the geriatric psych unit...they just had my sister (his POA) sign commitment papers...I'm just scared about not knowing what's next...thank you BarbBrooklyn for the words of encouragement that Bobby is where he needs to be. God will see us through what comes next.

My brother has similar circumstances, he's paralyzed with partial mobility, he has anger issues and unable to care for himself. He was in a assisted living facility and he wanted to tranfered to a place with limited medical care, they found him a place, he was moved and he realized he was not able to care for himself now he is waiting in hospital for someone to find a place but hospital will only keep him so long. I don't know what will happen. I believe his benefits are not right. I live in Texas he is in California. I don't know what will happen. My heart goes out to you and I pray for your family member. God bless you

Most reading this will already know that the anger is not really anger for the most part. For some of you who are newer to careging, this may be helpful.
My husband never showed an angry word or action in his life. After the dementia became obvious, that's all he showed. He was displaying this completely uncharacteristic behavior for two reasons. First, he was frustrated about his loss of ability and second, because it was the only emotion he had left. When he was happy he showed anger. When he was sad, anger. He is now medicated and has next to no emotion, but the dementia is so advanced he's in his own reality now. Finding the correct medication is very freeing for everyone concerned. Once that is under control options will be available.
In the meantime, he is safe and being treated. Take time to care for yourself while you have it. Stress is not healthy.

I would not have someone with anger issues in my home. You think they are fragile? Nope, they get super strength. My GFs father was in an AL and had a violent moment. He damaged a desktop computer he threw. Staff went into offices and shut doors and called police. He was taken for evaluation in another county. Dementia damages parts of the brain and the emotion part is one of them.

Elders are not themselves, but that is nothing new to anyone on here. See if the patient can get another psych eval and meds if others obviously aren't working.

Posting here for a friend to follow this thread....