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strgglngfmly Asked May 2015

What type of care would best suit my Mom?

Mom suffers with poor short term memory, depression, and anxiety (that causes sky-high blood pressure (200's/100's). She also has a fainting disorder related to low blood pressure. Due to the extreme fluctuations, it is not safe for her to take blood pressure medication. Secondary to her fainting episodes, though infrequent, she is unable to drive or live by herself (because of safety reasons). She has 3 children that work full-time jobs and have children rendering them unable to be with her 24/7. She needs reminders to take medication, assist to prepare meals, someone to be there when/if she faints (and knowledge to be able to help her), and to drive her short distances. She thrives in social situations so I would like to see her go on field trips and socialize with people. Unfortunately, she is very negative about her future, cries easily, gives-up easily when it comes to doing things to help herself(i.e. memory games), micromanages her grandchildren instead of loving on them, and is more frugal than anyone else I know. She has been living with family for the last year. She really wants to live by herself at her house but, it is not safe for her to do so. So... trying to figure out what care would best suit her. Thanks, in advance, for any suggestions.

Windyridge May 2015
Assited living, absolutely. It will be a struggle to get her there but she will probably settle in eventually and be fine. It seems like the best solution for mom and your family. She will have to spend her own money if she has any before medicaid kicks in.

jeannegibbs May 2015
Sounds like she'd be a good candidate for assisted living. She'd have her meals prepared and served, she could have medication dispensed, her laundry done, whatever special needs she has, and most of her costs would be rolled into one monthly bill. And she could certainly have a social life! Outings, field trips, on-site entertainment, playing cards, doing jigsaw puzzles, even watching television with others can be more fun than doing it alone.

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strgglngfmly May 2015
Rereading this, "frugal", sounds judgmental. I mention this only because price will be a big factor for her. I encourage her to spend money on herself - that we want the best for her and that she should be good to herself and enjoy this time of her life instead of worrying about money so much. Unfortunately, she becomes very anxious when it comes to spending money.

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