She is only 74, but she is very heavy and has difficulty walking. I think she's having symptoms of dementia, too. She can't think of words to call things like keys or a fork. I have to make her shower, and can only get her to shower once every 1-2 weeks, and that's if I strongly insist. She will go to the store about once a month and buys pre-made cakes, brownies, chips, candy. Then, she'll eat only that stuff until it's gone. She goes to bed around 7:30 and sleeps for 12 hours. Then she goes back to bed several times during the day. I would estimate her being in bed 16-20 hours per day. She moans and makes noises like it hurts her to move or walk, or just sitting, but refuses to see a doctor. I've made several appointments, but she refuses. After the first week of not bathing she smells terrible. She will only bathe or change clothes if a MAKE her. Home Health was coming out (not doing much) but they stopped because she will not go to the doctor.