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lazley73 Asked April 2015

My Mom is saying my older sister is not listening to her about how she feels. Advice?

my mother says she does not want my older sister to take her to the Dr no more cause she does not listen to her needs and holds her hands up when she goes to speak at appointments.Most recently she took mom to the dentist and had fie of her teeth removed and has bursing on the outside of her face my sister claims that is normal that I'm just over reacting.Watching my mom crying for two days and not being able to hold anything down is not over re acting to called caring she is 85 not 58 she needs to be heard too.

Invisible Apr 2015
I do the same. Let the doctor talk to my father first and then add things when they are done. Can you attend future appts for your mother with your sister? I would welcome my brothers and sisters attending with me.

JoAnn29 Apr 2015
Dentist should have given her instructions to put an ice pack on and off the first day. Also, should have given an antibiotic and pain killer.

Don't know how you can approach your sister. People like her tend to get worked up when someone tries to tell them they are wrong. I allow my Mom to talk and add to it if she hasn't told everything or can't explain. With her neurologist, I keep notes and give to him b/f the appt. I sit there while he asks Mom questions. When he is done with her he will ask me what I think.

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BarbBrooklyn Apr 2015
Have your mom call the dentist and ask if bruising is typical and what should be done about it. If mom is in pain, she should speak to the doctor.

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