Mom diagnosed with inoperable pancreatic cancer. After years of disrespect, dysfunction, hurt and being made the scapegoat of the family, now mom has had a change of heart. I can now be included on POA information, included in information only her son was trusted with. Why? Because I am retired and my brother and family are not. And they need some one to come in and take over the work.
I know this sounds awful but I just want to run. I will be traveling to visit mom this week after not seeing her for five years. Part of putting up boarders. I feel as if no one understand how I feel and I do feel sorry for her. She is pitiful.
But I would love to hear from some of you who have been abused and left out and at the 11th hour expected to come and joint the family because they need you. What do I do?
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She has less than 6 months. It is stage 3 and no treatment recommended. Just hospice, sad.
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Have you sought any therapy to deal with these issues? Because if you haven't learned new strategies to deal with their behavior and the feelings that those behaviors bring up, you'll be right back in the stew.
Are you sure that you are being asked to visit solely to be "live in help"? Are you sure this isn't an olive branch? I hate to miss the opportunity to mend fences, even at this late date.