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helpwithdad Asked September 2014

I have Dad's POA since 1998 and now he's wanting a caretaker who has known him for 8 mo. to have it. What should I do?

He's on meds for dementia. He has been in and out of nursing homes and recently I moved him into my home in Miami and hired a full time care taker who lives with him - he is on a limited budget and when I hired her we agreed on a salary, however now she has been asking for a raise and when I say he cant afford it she goes to him and conveniences him that he can afford it and that I am the one not making this happen and she might have to quit - and if she took care of his money he would have so much more. It has become a real issue and I am worried that my dad might be able to change his POA to her and change all of his income from SS and retirement into her account. He is taking advantage of his situation and needs to be stopped. He is currently on meds for dementia and Alzheimer's however his doctors have given him test and say he has passed them.... My dad is very good at pulling together all his memory abilities when he needs to pass these test, however he cant tell me what the doctors have said or what meds he is on, or even what he had for lunch or dinner - I am afraid he is in a predatory situation and I cant seem to do anything to prevent this. He lives in Miami and I live in the panhandle of florida - what should I do?

bjohns Sep 2014
I am in a very similar situation except that this woman originally answered an ad for a roommate , which I was completely against. She now controls the phone calls and when he'll see his children. He appears to be of sound mind to the judge and Dr. I called Senior Protective Services but was told I had to prove he was being exploited. He refuses to complete a Will, POA or anything to do with giving up his rights. What am I to do?

helpwithdad Sep 2014
I tried, but dad said to her don't worry I will hire you right back, when she leaves and since I don't live close to him - I am sure that is what he would do as soon as I walk out the door. I am going to see an attorney this next week to see what I can do

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Eyerishlass Sep 2014
Fire the caregiver right this minute and then go for guardianship.

BarbBrooklyn Sep 2014
I think that I would also put in a call to APS to report a predator. The quality of their work varies widely from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, but it's worth a try. Was a background check done on the caregiver?

MaggieMarshall Sep 2014
Pam's right. Make the call to an elder law attorney on Monday. You could have an emergency on your hands. Right now, you can't stop him from doing exactly that -- making her his POA. And me thinks she'll facilitate him all the way to the attorney's office. He might be doing THAT on Monday for all you know.

pamstegma Sep 2014
Guardianship ASAP do not delay another minute.

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