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samkory Asked June 2014

I cannot control my Mom. Any advice?

Ever since my Dad passed away a couple of years back, my Mom and i have not been the best of friends. I have a younger brother and i am the eldest. I handle the finances in the house and my Mom's job is ro spend them all. She is like a beast without a leash in wasting money. She does not have mercy on me and has an extremely strong personality. I have tried so many ways, asked so many friends she listens to, but all trials in vein. I have developed hatred towards my mother. All she thinks of is herself. She does not care that her children have a hard life to dig and are in desperate need of saving a bit of money. If i give her 10,000$ she will erase them in 2 weeks and if i give her 100,000$ she will erase them in 2 weeks. No mercy. I have gone into so much aggressive fights towards this matter. She fights me whenever i speak calmly thus forcing me to step up the doze. If i do not give her money, she will go and borrow from ppl thus forcing me to pay her debts. HOW CAN I CONTROL SUCH A MOTHER???

pamstegma Jun 2014
Placing the dollar sign after the amount clearly indicates you are not in the US. Perhaps you meant rupees?

GardenArtist Jun 2014
Your profile doesn't indicate whether you're living together, or what that situation is. It would help to know if you're her fulltime caregivier, and what her medical conditions are.

Beyond that, you stated that if she borrows from others, you are forced to pay her debts. Why? Have you signed any kind of responsibility document for her debts? Do you hold a durable power of attorney from her?

Some more information on the situation would be helpful.

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kazzaa Jun 2014
You dont say if she has any mental illness? my mum was always a thoughtful person its when she became selfish i knew something was wrong could she be depressed or may have early dementia does she have any health issues?

For now stop giving her money she cant spend what she hasnt got!

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