My parents live at home and my sister moved in with them. She is their caregiver. She complains about my 3 brothers not helping, behind their backs, so I'm sure she does to them about me as well. I live in a town not far away, so I could help. Another brother is in town. 2 others are far away. And when I ask her to let me know whenever she needs help, she shuts me out. Now Mom is in a nursing home temporarily for rehab on her hip.
I know from working in a nursing home that there are family meetings... something I have asked if we could all have for months, as my parents are not getting any better with their various health issues... and I know there will be an opportunity to have that at the "home" and I want to be informed when one happens, but right now things are so bad communications-wise that I don't know if anyone will inform anyone of this.
I am hurt and angry and confused and don't know what to do. It wakes me up at night. I dread seeing my sister anymore and feel her controlling ways are out of hand now.
Has anyone been through this? What did you do? What works?