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Raymondprescott Asked March 2014

Know any good books on treating the elderly with respect?

A good friend of mine, elderly lady, of sound mind was railroaded to a retirement community 1500 miles from her hometown. Her husband and kids conspired in this action and sold off or gave away all her most precious possessions including most of her clothes, cookbooks and hobby items like her knitting supplies. We visited her when we could but she spent the last 5 years of her life mostly alone, totally miserable, cutoff from her friends, and never got too see her grandkids and great grandkids. Money was not the issue. Her networyh along with her husband was over 2 million and one of her sons was worth at least 50 million.

With her passing, my wife and I would like to buy a book in her honor on how to respect the wishes of elderly parents and relatives to be donated to our local library. Do you have any suggestions.

Thanks so much for your time on this.

cindyinfrogmore Mar 2014
Oh, I almost forgot something else. Go on AbeBooks - my brother-in-law has two book stores and recommended it. You can buy slightly used books on most any subject from all over the world. It is safe and some of the little book stores are even in Canada and the UK. You might pay just a couple of dollars for a book plus the shipping. I bought my husband many, many Louis Lamour and Zane Grey books on this because he just loves old westerns. All subjects!

cindyinfrogmore Mar 2014
Most churches have a good library on this sort of thing. Also places like Hollings Cancer Center/MUSC at Charleston. I made great friends with the lady who works at the cancer center library, even donated a couple that might help others. Talk to your pastor, rabbi, etc. or local hospice for books and other helpful information. I have a lot of audible and readable books of this nature on my Kindle. They help tremendously. God bless. Don't give up. What you are attempting is frustrating and exhausting, but it is so important.

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pipruby Mar 2014
This is not a book. Contribute to a "Compassion" class in one of your elementary schools.

ctharrell Mar 2014
"Counting on Kindness: The Dilemmas of Dependency" by Wendy Lustbader, LCSW. Best book ever written showing deep empathy and on understanding the transition, fast or slow, to needing more help and the emotional aspect that is often overlooked. Check Amazon.

Gigi11 Mar 2014
"How To Say It To Seniors -- Closing the Communication Gap with Our Elders" by David Solie, M.S., P.A.

Gigi11 Mar 2014
"The Validation Breakthrough" -- Simple Techniques for Communicating with People with 'Alzheimer's-Type Dementia" by Naomi Feil.

artist Mar 2014
"Validation" can't think of the author. Great book!! Lots of insight..

Heart2Heart Mar 2014
There are many great books out there (many of which I got from the library... great idea!)... If you do a google search on the subject matter (including the word 'book') you'll find many... One I can suggest is
Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You Paperback by Roberta Satow. Ph.d (Author) amazon/Doing-Right-Thing-Elderly-Parents/dp/1585424625

OmgWhatNow Mar 2014
Wow, deep. If one doesnt exist, write one in her honor.

Aquarius1 Mar 2014
I don't have any recommendations for you but I am so sorry your friend went through that. What a horrible way to live out your last years. Karma has a way of leveling the playing field and it sounds like her family has a dose of it to come. Good luck on finding such a book. If you can't find one, perhaps this might be your chance to write it. Best wishes!

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