How to deal with Mom's paranoia?

the thing is, when she's not on that subversive tangent, she's the sweetest thing you can imagine. really a dr jeckyll and mr hyde turn and everybody feels her love. when something reminds her of what she imagines to be the worst then she goes off and her darker side comes out and there's no reasoning with her.

when she's present, she's a joy to be with. i just imagined there might be strategies to ride out the storm. (ok, this declaring of incompetency is something i am not able to process; i'm needing to do the ostrich head in the sand bit with it but thanks so much for your response, psteigman.)

Yup. Have her declared incompetent before she does some real damage. See an attorney ASAP.