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NoAngel Asked December 2013

Help! Is there some kind of appliance to help an older man aim?

I see that other people have similar problems. The person I care for is an older, obese man with lots of health issues and he can't aim his urinary flow at all anymore. We've put down towels in the bathroom, and that helps in there. Of course I have to wash out lots more towels more often, but that's not impossible. The big problem is that he uses the kitchen trash barrel, especially when he has his pants on (not just pajamas) and he doesn't want to leak all over his pants. I'm at my wits' end with the smell and carrying down heavy loads to the garbage all the time. I'm doubling up bags and putting in shredded newspapers to avoid the bags leaking - it's like having a new puppy, only way bigger and nowhere near as cute. Does anyone know if there's some kind of thing that helps men aim? Like a big funnel or something? It doesn't help matters that our landlord put in a very low toilet years ago. He uses a plastic booster seat for defecating, but he won't sit to urinate and it probably wouldn't work because of his size. He doesn't need adult diapers, and I certainly am not ready to change them - if it ever gets to that point, he needs more help than I can give him at home, that's for sure. He got one of those bottles to go in when he was hospitalized, but he can't use that by himself (can't see himself down there, for one thing), so whatever he would use to aim would have to be quite a bit bigger at the input end of it, and not rough or scratchy like the hospital bottle. Anybody know of anything like I'm suggesting, or even what it would be called in order to search for it? I've had more than I can take, and of course I have to be able to take everything and do everything without complaining!

CarlaCB Dec 2016
Blannie, your shoehorn idea made me laugh out loud!

georgeman Dec 2016
Sit down to pee

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Veronica91 Dec 2013
biannie
I don't see any men helping us out.
Capt any ideas? you must know some obese men.

blannie Dec 2013
This whole thread is giving me the giggles. I'm thinking you need to get him a long shoe horn and he can sit on the toilet and push his pistol down with the shoe horn. If he can't see or reach his pistol, I'm not sure how a funnel is going to help. And with that, I am officially out of ideas. But I'm still giggling.

I'm sorry, I know it's a problem, but it's striking me funny as a bunch of women try to solve this issue with the politest language and euphemisms possible. :)

JessieBelle Dec 2013
Ah, but he's too big, so I think NoAngel was meaning his pistol would be peeking out in front of the toilet. If so, the funnel idea sounds best.

freqflyer Dec 2013
With the right kind of toilet seat that is opened in the front, he could probably sit down to urinate... but some males might refuse to do that due to male ego. Don't spoil him, tell him either he sits down, or out come the Depends.

blannie Dec 2013
He needs to sit on the toilet. My elderly dad with a very big gut did that and had no problems. If he can sit to do his "business" he can sit to pee. He needs to be more considerate of you as his caregiver!

NoAngel Dec 2013
Thanks for your suggestions. It's not so much a question of him seeing the target, but not being able to get a good grip on the pistol. He is quite overweight, and his business has sort of shrunk up into the fat. He has no trouble hitting the trash can, but I'd like to be able to train him to NOT use it. I'll look for some kind of large funnel. Trouble with guys is, once they get used to doing something one way, it's hard to get them started doing it differently. This is the first place I've found where people have similar issues.

Veronica91 Dec 2013
I have just done a web search for medical equipment and came up with a male spill proof urinal. It is basically a urinal with a spate funnel that fits into the urinal. I think your gentleman will do better with my idea. let us know how it goes.

blannie Dec 2013
Wow Veronica, awesome answer!! A Rube Goldberg pee-shooter!! :)

Veronica91 Dec 2013
Try one of the large funnels with the long concertina extension that you can use for putting fuel in a car or kerosene in a heater. Place this in a container similar to a gas can and stand that on a tray deep enough to catch the overflow.
Place one by the toilet and one by the trash can. if you can't find the funnel with the extension buy the largest funnel you can find and purchase a length of rigid plastic tubing that the end of the funnel can be jammed firmly into. If he can grasp his penis and the funnel I think there is a better chance of getting the job done cleanly.

pamstegma Dec 2013
A mirror placed at an angle above the toilet may help him see the target.

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