I try to get my mother to take a shower every 3 days. I just say the word shower and she gets extremely upset ,starts to shake because she is so mad. i have tried many different ways to get her to take one but none of them really work, i will turn the shower on and say in a calm voice how about we take a shower before we go out, i will do it before she goes to bed thinking it will calm her, have tried in the morning lets have one before you eat breakfast. if she does have one i even praise her . i have even told her how nice she looks and smells nice and clean, thinking that might work . nope none of these things work i have even let her go for several weeks without taking one, but when you say shower she bristles. i am at my wits end!! please help!!!!