What should I do when my mother complains about her health issues but refuses to see a doctor or do anything about it?

Maybe you can bargin with her and say you will take her out to lunch after the appointment. If she is on meds you could tell her the doc will not renew her meds unless she see's him or her -any elder person should see their doc at least once a year anyway then she can discuss what her concerns or maybe you could tell her the doc wants to check her blood pressure or check her blood work but if she is of sound mind you can not force her to go to the specialist-my late husband enjpyed the attention and I had to take more often then needed. If I were you I might tell her to stop complaining about her health if she is not willing to see the MD. when necessary. I am so glad you appreciate what your sister is going through and hope you are able to give her some assistance with your Mom and I am sure you tell her how much you appreciate what she is doing.

Thanks for your response Emerald4Me. I appreciate your input. She did end up making an appointment and now he wants her to see a specialist, but of course, now she's not going to that because she thinks it a trick. She's also paranoid! My sister is a saint for putting up with her behavior. Best of luck with your Mom.

I know what you mean! My mother refuses to see a doctor! When she had back surgery, she went for one follow up appointment and never went back again. I would say don't listen to the complaining. Either ignore it or cut her off and say "Mom, would you like me to make a doctor's appointment for you?" If her answer is no, then say "Then let's discuss something else since I can't help you with that."