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nancytrense Asked August 2010

What do you do when your 91-year-old, blind, wheelchair-bound mother wants to leave the assisted living facility and go back to her condo?

susanT8403 Aug 2010
Just do what I did, keep on telling her that now is not the right time, that they are working on specific medications to make things more clear for her , then they will look into letting her go! That worked for me, Now she is on to the next thing to obcess about! and for sure she will! now my mother is all wrapped up into her bank statements, even though they might not be making a whole lot of sense to her, she still has something to focus her mind on.....THats all its about anyway, is giving her new things to focus on, thats why I brought in ways to make jewelry -parties once a week that they will allow, so many of the femaie residents want to partake in it, and can say when Its over, "hey, look what I made"!

AgingCareTeam Aug 2010
Hey Nancy!
Welcome to AgingCare. This article about when parents say they "just want to go home" should help you handle this situation:

https://www.agingcare.com/138005

The AgingCare Team

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195Austin Aug 2010
Is it still available for her if it is maybe she could spend an hr or 2 in it by herself so she would realize it would be impossible for her to manage this may be the time you have to tell her it is not possible for her to be there on her own-she will probably be very upset to hear this I am 70 and there are things I can no longer do like mow the whole lawn in one day but mostly I am able to do what I want to and am not sure I will be gracious when the time comes for me to be restricted maybe if someone other than you explain it to her she would understand better.

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