This is one of the most unfortunate situations I hear about, and you are not alone. A nursing home may be a better option, and certainly a checkup with a doctor to make sure medications are all in order is a must. Good luck, Carol
Will nursing homes typically accept patients that have been aggressive, because now assis living won't. Does it have to be a state facility? Dr. trying to regulate meds. thanks for the info. Cindy
I am so sorry to hear about this; I actually have an aunt that was in a similar situation and they are now on their 3rd assisted living center. I was very surprised to learn about this---I thougth that an ALF would be more interested in keeping their resident--- but after also completing a months' long search for my parent, have learned quite a bit about ALF's. Most of all, the ALF that I visited, were 90% for-profit only. This means that they can (and will) evict residents that do not fit their desired populations. All of the ALF that I visited, had an explicit Code of Conduct. This is GOOD---it meant that I could be assured that my parent would not be subjected to weird behavirous by other residents, but it also means that if my parent developed weird behaviors because of dementia, in the future, they could also be subject to eviction. So, it's true, the wonderful ALF that you thought would be The Place for your parent, has come to an end, and now you have to find another place.....I don't have any experience with that except to say that in my aunt's situation, they did find a bed at another place, but it was not as "nice" as the first 2 places. There's not a lot you can do. There is simply no guarantee that there will be a place for your parent, prepare yourself. Get her doctor involved---they may be able to adjust the medication, for the transition time she may need to have more sedating mix. You may have to take her in to your own home (find a caregiver).
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I was very surprised to learn about this---I thougth that an ALF would be more interested in keeping their resident--- but after also completing a months' long search for my parent, have learned quite a bit about ALF's.
Most of all, the ALF that I visited, were 90% for-profit only. This means that they can (and will) evict residents that do not fit their desired populations. All of the ALF that I visited, had an explicit Code of Conduct. This is GOOD---it meant that I could be assured that my parent would not be subjected to weird behavirous by other residents, but it also means that if my parent developed weird behaviors because of dementia, in the future, they could also be subject to eviction.
So, it's true, the wonderful ALF that you thought would be The Place for your parent, has come to an end, and now you have to find another place.....I don't have any experience with that except to say that in my aunt's situation, they did find a bed at another place, but it was not as "nice" as the first 2 places.
There's not a lot you can do. There is simply no guarantee that there will be a place for your parent, prepare yourself. Get her doctor involved---they may be able to adjust the medication, for the transition time she may need to have more sedating mix. You may have to take her in to your own home (find a caregiver).