She had two falls recently, each of which set her back significantly due to the traumatic pain. I knew via our usual Friday video chat that she was ready to be done. She said nothing, and had a flat affect throughout. At the end, we said we loved her, and her aide told her that we had said that, and she said her usual only two words "Bless You."
She died this morning - my dad's birthday. I had a sense that she might have brought this to bear. I even joked that she got up to heaven and popped out of a cake to surprise him. But it's thundering outside tonight, so I'm guessing they're dancing.
Thank you for all your great advice. I'll keep coming here, as now it's our turn to be the aging and needing guidance.
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I'm so sorry as you grieve the loss of your mom. That's quite a way to leave her pain and suffering behind her - by dying on your dad's birthday and having a beautiful reunion for them to celebrate together.
I like your sense of humor even in the most painful of moments for you - "that she got up to heaven and popped out of a cake to surprise him." Hold onto that thought to help you through the grief and sadness.
I'm glad you had one last video chat Friday and were able to send her off with "we love you" so she could go out feeling blessed and at peace.
May God's peace and comfort be with you and your family as you grieve.
I pray that you feel the comfort of the Lord during this time. You are in my prayers!
May you find strength and peace as you move forward.
I find your words so poetic. Please stick around. Your words are beautifully written.
Take care. Cherish your sweet memories.
May God give you strength and grieving mercies during this difficult time.
What a great thought that they are rejoicing in dancing and making thunder.