I read about your stressful and dire situation. I am so very sorry. I understand completely your dilemma with work/caring for your mom. I wish I had a concrete answer, but the only other avenue that you might explore, if you haven't already, is the religious/church community near you. I know that when someone comes to a church in my area and fully details out their problem and asks for help, then there is usually an outpouring of hands-on assistance. I hope that something wonderful happens very soon for you. I am praying for you and your family.