Taking the bull by the horns!
I am fed up with my mother's ideology about living in her own home until she dies. She lives an hours drive away, age 82 and in failing health (severe COPD).
I work and cannot make that commute when she will start needing more medical attention for her failing health. I have started looking into an assisted facility near me that is also close to a hospital and excellent doctors. I am also checking into a nice nearby nursing home if her health disqualifies her for assisted living. I can no longer dwell on when the ulitmate might happen and have to scramble to find a placement for her, it is emotionally eating me alive. Luckily I have DPOA. I have to do something even though my mother refuses to do anything but live in her unrealistic world. I am just wondering if anyone else went ahead to make inquiries about future placements. Any advice would be welcome. My mother owns her own home (paid in full, taxes defered), has a take home income of $2,000 a month, $16,000 in the checking account (and growing), an IRA account of $18,000 and $20,000 cash in safe deposite box. I am joint in checking account and safe deposite box. Live in the Northeast.