I feel like I'm getting mentally sick.

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Long story short, I just turned 18. I'm going nuts in this house, literally. My dad is getting dementia/has it already. Before it started getting real bad, basically his kids from his first marriage stole his life savings and property, and it seemed he went insane or something, and now since dementia has developed, he keeps freaking confusing freaking memories about it. Every freaking day and night, OH MY MONEY WHERE IS IT, IS IT IN THE BANK, OH SOMEONE ON COURT STREET HAS IT. It's safe in the bank, he doesn't remember. At all. Court street is where he lived as a child. He thinks he has friends there, but they are dead. HES 81. He thinks the TV is talking to him, telling him about his money. On New Years at near midnight, we had to go to the emergency room because he was trying to leave and get lost, he got lost in the summer for 2 days and they found him almost dead. The VA is like "oh he's developing signs of dementia" WTF he has it already, and they haven't put him in a home yet or recommended it. He's been trying to leave every single night. We have to sleep in the hall blocking the door so he can't leave. He's thinking night is day and day is night every day. I CAN'T TAKE THIS NO MORE. College is starting soon, what am I suppose to do? Wake up at 3 am and can't go to bed because he thinks it's day time? We are crammed in a 1 bedroom apartment because his kids took his house he owned. What makes it worse is I have an autistic brother, he needs looking after and a mother who can't walk properly due to an ulcer on her leg. EVERY DAY I FEEL LIKE JUST HIDING IN THE 1 BEDROOM WE HAVE. I can't concentrate, I can't talk to friends without him thinking it's some person who deals with money, I can't do anything. I FEEL PHYSICALLY SICK EVERYDAY AND I THINK I'M GETTING MENTALLY SICK.
What amazes me is this was just all of a sudden. Sure, he forgot things here and there, but they day he found out he got robbed, he was just weird for the next few days and started getting confused, forgetting things and what not. This wasn't overtime, it was sudden. I'm going insane. As I'm typing this he's trying to find shoes to leave because he wants to go to a lawyers office, it's 10:30 EST. He thinks it's morning, MY MOM IS SLEEPING BY THE DOOR BLOCKING IT AND HID HIS SHOES.

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I read in another thread that you can use outside docs with VA. The VA is a mess almost everywhere
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I was in a similar situation with my neighbor. I started running 20 minutes a day and trips to the library. If you can get some time to yourself, use it to your benefit. Spend more time at school; take naps and get counseling. Ask the VA What they plan to do about his deteriorating condition and when will other measures be taken for his safety and your sanity. Take care
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I'm a male :p. It turns out they discussed it during the night, I heard them talking (I woke up) but I was half asleep. It was around 3 30 am. Don't know when he finally went to bed but he woke up at 3 pm est.
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A school counselor could really help. I live in Toronto, here I called the city for a neighbor. A social worker met with us a few times and we finally got her put into a home. She was 67 and suffering from the onset of dementia. It took 4 visits from the worker to complete the assessment. This is too draining for you.
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This is exceptionally hard, Bananaman. It's more than one person can handle alone. Please try to see that school counselor soon!
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You are a strong young woman, however, you will run out of fuel at some point and break down if you don't address this at sometime. Even highly trained and skillef vets and first responders need support or counseling when they've Been thru tragic events. I would tape him and show it to people when he gets out of hand. A police officer, a city worker, doctor or anyone who is used to dealing with these matters. It seems clear to me that you are not equipped to deal with someone this Ill or you will become I'll yourself. Seems like you recognize your limits which indicates your still same and a sensible younger woman. Venting is good too. Do you have friends who can support you? If you've been isolated by this speak to a counselor or call a help center. Take good care.
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Wow! So sorry this is happening.

Have you found a counselor yet?
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Now I have to sleep by the door.
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My mom got into an argument and decided she's bringing him to his other children tomorrow giving them the responsibility because he just tried leaving again and she explained its 12 degrees out you will die out there. He wanted to leave so she said FINE ILL BRING YOU TO YOUR OTHER SONS TOMORROW. He thinks those are his brothers not his children.-_-. I said why are you not freaking bringing him into a program "BE QUIET YOU'RE ONLY A CHILD". I'm getting sick and f***** tired of being shot down with this oh you're a child BS. Feel like throwing something at her everytime she says it.
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Good call, Bananaman! Most colleges have at least two kinds of counselling services. One is academic/career oriented and can help you decide whether you are more suited to be a lawyer or an electrical engineer. The other is for life issues. But where ever you start the process the counselor should be able to direct you to appropriate resources within or outside the college.

Please do not wait for the next semester to start. The sooner you start the process the sooner you'll feel better.
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