Taking some of the stress off me, without feeling guilty from the pain it causes. My husband now has a tracheotomy (at night only) and it is my responsibility to care for it. The more he does for himself the better he will get and the more weight he will lose which is the only way for the trach to be removed eventually. I know that getting up causes him physical pain but if he stops getting up he will eventually become unable to get up. I guess I am seeking the words to motivate him without making him feel I don't want to do it for him. I know that if he stops it will kill him and that is a great fear. We are both 50, I work full time and provide full time care for him. Thanks for your time.