The Things I've Learned From a Husband With Dementia


I have learned a lot from this seven year journey with Bob and "Al."

I have learned to take it one day at a time--one moment at a time on some days.

I have learned that I don’t have to always be right (although as a wife and woman, I know that I am☺).

I have learned that the material possessions I have lost in what I like to call "the Alzheimer's bankruptcy" and "the Alzheimer's foreclosure" of our family home, are all just things that clutter our lives and our minds. I have learned to live with much less.

I have learned patience in way I thought I never would, and to love in a way I thought I never could.

I have learned to look at others in a different way, by looking beyond what you see on the outside; looking for their shadows...whatever they may be.

Bob and "Al" have challenged my life in way that I did not think I would survive. Some days I still think I may not get through it.

I know there will come a time when l cannot do this any longer, and it may be sooner than I would like. But for now, I will continue to live one moment at a time, right along with "them."

No matter how many times I have to tell "Al" to turn right when he exits the bathroom.☺

Sheri works fulltime as a Property Manager and caregiver for Robert, her husband of 25 years, who was diagnosed in 2008 with both Frontal Lobe Dementia and Alzheimer’s. On a journey she never thought she would find herself on, Sheri has been blogging about the way Alzheimer’s has invaded her family’s life since 2009.

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I am right there with you. My husband, who I have been with for at least 17 years now, was diagnosed with Solvent Dementia right after we were married. Being a Psychiatric R.N., I knew something was wrong & kind of figured it out & then had him tested. Damn, I did not want to be right.
It is such an alone existence when they become void of all emotion but just distrust the one who care for & loves them. I will never leave him. This is not why I married this man.
I have had 2 children die since 2009 & had to deal with it alone. It is not what I signed up for but the gifts I have been handed.
I pray a lot.
I love a lot.
I do a moment at a time.
I am so tired of crying, for I know I cry for me & for no one else.
As I watch this man I love turn into some one I do not know & keep looking for that light with in, I find it. This is my lesson to learn from. I am here to serve.
I am so sorry you in this place too. Hugs and Prayers for you.

😊YES!! Having mom move in with us and taking care of her 24/7 for the past 3 years has done the same for me. Having mom here, l believe, saved my marriage. I know my husband does not see it, but that's ok because I do. God will bring something good out of something bad!!