I had to put my Mother in Assisted Living last week and she is so angry that she says she will never speak to me again. She has a frontal lobe type Dementia and Delusional Disorder. She has sent thousands of dollars to scammers that she thinks are in love with her and want to marry or move in with her. Even after I got guardianship over a year ago and shut down her bank accounts, she sold about 90% of her furniture to send them more money and had recently started another round of going to banks and online to get more money. Her memory is still good and she is still quite intelligent, but her judgement is shot. The only way to stop the scamming was to have her removed from her home and placed in Assisted Living. I had Social Services do this and tried to stay out of it as much as possible. The Facility is over an hour away out in the country. I know this is a huge change for her, but it hurts to hear her anger. Our relationship had been good until about 2 years ago when the scamming started and we found out the diagnosis. I am an only child and have been her only caregiver. She refuses to believe that ANYTHING is wrong with her, just my fault "for taking everything away from her".
I've heard most people say that she will eventually adjust and I can start visiting her. She's been there a week and I have no interest in going to see her until she calms down and is not so angry. Have others dealt with this? And how long has it taken before the anger subsides enough to visit your loved one?