Caring for Mom Articles

  • Memory Care: The Greatest Gift We Could Give Mom

    Mom's progression of Alzheimer's disease over the last eight years had been pretty much textbook. But nothing would prepare us for the challenge of placing her in memory care.

  • A Caregiver’s Tips: Taking a Vacation When Your Loved One Has Dementia

    Caregiver's need respite, but as our departure date got closer, I became increasingly worried about spending the time away. Based on the success of our experience, I came up with five tips for dementia caregivers who are planning a holiday.

  • Repetition & Dementia: Navigating Mum’s Question Loop

    Like many other dementia patients, my mother repeatedly asks a handful of complex and emotionally charged questions. This is how I try to set her mind at ease.

  • Early Onset Alzheimer's: A Story of Love and Loss

    Dealing with Mom's early-onset Alzheimer's diagnosis I learned to live in Mom’s world because she cannot live in mine. This is a glimpse into my ongoing journey with Mom and how I have learned to fight back against dementia.

  • This Is What Happened When My Parents Moved In

    Eleven years have passed since my parents first moved in with me. What I didn’t anticipate was that opening up my home to my parents would, in a sense, shut the door to my own refuge.

  • I can't bring myself to visit mom in the nursing home. How can I move past my anxiety?

    The guilt, grief, and anxiety of placing someone in a nursing home often impacts the desire to visit. A caregiver shares their experience with learning to spend quality time with Mom in the nursing home.

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  • “I Promised My Parents I'd Never Put Them in a Nursing Home”

    Many family caregivers vow to never place their aging parents or spouses in a nursing home. But when their needs increase and caring for them at home becomes a struggle, a promise that was made in good faith often becomes a source of guilt and contention.

  • A Happy Day with Dementia

    Although Mom didn’t remember the details of our picture-perfect day together, she was very happy. With dementia, the memories may not stick anymore, but the feelings and emotions attached to them still linger.

  • Behavior Changes and the Progression of Dementia

    As a dementia caregiver, I see Mum fading in and out of reality, sometimes recognizing the severity of her illness and other times not even realizing something is wrong. All I can do is go through the motions with her.

  • Constructs of Reality and Dementia

    As Mum’s memory fades, the realities of her everyday life seem to go as well. It’s like acting in a strange play with half of the cues missing.

  • Navigating Dementia is Hard Stuff

    For the last ten years, Mum and I have been navigating a different kind of relationship. Things turn into a kind of dance with dementia, and sometimes it’s awfully hard.

  • Gardening and Growing with Dementia

    Helping a loved one with dementia find activities that match their interests and physical and mental abilities can be trying. Adapting old hobbies to be simpler and more immediately rewarding can help patients engage and find their "flow."

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  • Living With Dementia: Mom's Purpose

    Mom desperately wants to feel better; to have some purpose in life. As her caregiver I was keen to help, but it can take a number of ideas and trials for a person to adopt a new hobby or activity, especially someone who has dementia.

  • Note to Self

    Caregivers can easily get caught up in life's many demands, but exposing a dementia patient to this whirlwind of activity can be confusing and upsetting.

  • A Decent Hem

    Most elders want to feel useful and do something to contribute to what is happening around them. Finding ways to utilize their strengths and incorporate them in activities can be challenging, but it is worth the effort.

  • A Tribute to Mom

    A touching Mother's Day letter from dementia caregiver, Michele DeSocio.

  • I Don’t Remember Mom Complaining

    When I was growing up, I don't remember Mom complaining about anything. But it was her struggle with dementia that showed me why complaining is truly counterproductive.

  • 5 Ways to Remember Mom on Mother’s Day

    On Mother’s Day, consider these thoughtful ideas for honoring the memory of the woman who played such an important role in your life.

  • Caregivers can Celebrate Mother's Day With Forgiveness

    Celebrate Mother's Day by remembering the women who've helped us throughout our lives. Now,as caregivers, it is our turn to care for them. Gain insight into your mothers life and forgive her for what may have been less than perfect mothering practices.

  • Did Your Mother Really Know Best?

    Whether you believe mom was right or wrong as you were growing up, reflecting on childhood memories can be therapeutic as you face the fact that she is getting older.

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