Last night, I read a thread that has since been deleted. I came to this site for support and information regarding caregiving. Before posting, I read many discussions. I gained an impression that this was a site that was supportive.
Built into social media there are hidden dangers. The written word is flat. The reader can take the written word in different ways. Intimacy is established quickly. Strangers share details that are personal and yet have a thread of shared experience. Caregiving is a stressful undertaking. It makes us vunerable. Vunerable people are easily hurt and angered.
With my first post, I received some really good information. I also had to sort through some comments that felt somewhat harsh. Many of those posts had helpful hints. I had to sort through the many words to find the gems. They were there. I benefitted from the advice and remain grateful for the tips that I have been given.
Be kind to one another. Caregiving is tough enough without us turning on one another. We are all anonymous here. Our writing and details of our experience gives us an identity that is otherwise not evident. Everyone has good days and bad days. Let's be supportive of one another regarding both types of days. We all have something to offer and gain from one another.
I am grateful to each person with whom I have interacted. I have been on other support sites where similar things have happened. In one instance, I left the group because the benefits did not outweigh the difficulties. My two cents worth as a newbie to the site.
I hope that everyone comes out of this situation whole. It may take some longer than others and that should be okay.