I'm 70-Mom 93, recently she was put into a NH. She has dementia and prior to the NH, I took care of her, it did in fact ware me down. I sleep better but have this guilt feeling that won't ease up. She has almost "normal" days and unless I do not go see her every day, she seems content. I do go see her at least every other day, at one time because of health reasons, I didn't go see her for 2 weeks. Much to my surprise, when I did go, she was content and happy. Now that I go more, she complains and wants to go home with me. Guess I just wanted to vent !!