First, I appreciate the responses about my kids helping out. I now have 3-4 hour windows with a caregiver for my husband. It allows me to schedule time to see my mother, meet with my counselor or other Drs as well as attend a tai chi class! My husband is ok as long as he has the same caregiver. Consistency is so important. His dementia has a negative behavior element to it now. It’s not physical but is verbal. The best I can do is say ok dear and move on. We’ve been married 39 years. I love the man I married. It’s a completely different life now. The “new normal” is what I’ve been told it’s called. How do I set a schedule and expect to stick to it?