My mother who has dementia and sundowners asks one question everyday non-stop. Same time everyday. We need help!!!!

This is a pattern that she's adopted and it's not easily amended. Her mind is broken. Maybe asking the same questions at the same time of day is just something that her brain is "stuck" on. I don't mean to sound acrimonious; it's just the nature of the disease. "To go home" (in this case, she's already there) means a variety of things - to go to their childhood home, to go to place where they were born, etc. My late mother repeated the same story 1,001 times over. I never really figured out why this was as I'm not a psychiatrist.

Oh my heart... I totally understand. I have no concrete answers, but I do agree with what someone said.. get her into some music. It does have a way to carry them to a different place. If able to get her out. go for a drive, and get some music you both can sing to. My best times with my mom in this stage of her life was singing familiar hymns together from a Christian Radio station. Good luck. I know it is extremely taxing. We just got my mom into a memory care wing of a nursing facility. My time with her now is so much more precious. I have the patience now that i didn't for years with the constant repeated questions. Blessings to all.

go home go home go home was all my mom would say, then she stopped talking...
90 minutes in Heaven is a movie, a long one, but the man died and he died for 90 minutes. He saw heaven. When he came back to his body, and the recovery, he wanted to go back home = Heaven.

play music for her, dance with her. Your mom may be tired, and wants to go home = Heaven.

My mom went home. I miss her

Eat drink and be merry. Have fun with her. Don't correct her, it's impossible and then she may decide not to talk anymore, That killed me when mom stopped talking.

I have no family members with dementia ...but I'm lucky enough to work in a feild were I I'm in contact with.. people that are stricking with this disease..I see the fustration on the family caregivers...in my years of helping...ive made alot of mistakes..and learned a awful lot from the family caregivers..what has worked..with. Repetitive questions...and emotional crying...read your mother's body language...if she's closed off give her space...and your body language...the question when are we going home????...and your getting aggravated...try remember...the most loving moment you and your mom shared..and use a gentle..touch...and say mom we are home ...this is we're you live...then engaged asking her questions..about home... Cognitive therapy...the fact is she may never stop asking the question...in my opinion it's not about the question it's about you...I feel dementia patiences feel our stress level...like when two people are fighting..and you walk in to the room..you feel that tention...I feel the loved one with dementia sences that..try whistling...it's sounds crazy but it gives the loved ones a sence of calm...and defuses you as well..can you be stressed and whistle at the same time..it's kinda hard... ...play music... always humor...when the obsessive...crying...a gentle touch and yes I understand...use positive reinforcement..your doing good...you can't give your best to your mom if your not at your best...I truly hope this might help...

My Mom had Alzheimers for 19 years but did not have the repeating issue. She walked alot and would wake up at 2am dressed and ready to go. It was our early morning ritual. The dr gave her medication but it made things worse and another medication affected her liver enzymes. Try playing music that she liked when she was younger, sometimes hand massages works wonders. Sorry for the long answer. Blessing to all!

tried to reply directly to you in your question to me, but yes, my mom has dementia and is in a wheelchair and can't do much for herself...

I am sure you and many others in your situation love their parents and want the best for them. But here is something you must face. She is "gone", no longer who and what she once was and it can't be fixed. Everyone has a tolerance level which cannot be made bigger or wider. The caretakers must at times, to save their own sanity and not be destroyed by the behavior of the patient, take a very strong, firm stand. The sweet talk just will not work and it will be ignored and the behavior will be continued. I know I would explode after a while - I just could not help it - I am a mere human. If you don't want to explode and "hurt" her by your reaction, just excuse yourself and go off and do something in another room. If she follows you and starts in again, tell her she just asked that and you are NOT going to listen and hear the same things over and over again. Move again. Eventually, some of it may get through to her. And, you and you alone can tell how much she is impacting your quality of life and what it is doing to you mentally and physically. If there are no caretakers to help, you may have to consider placing her in a facility. You can't put up with this forever - I know, been there, done that.