Year 7 of 24/7 caring for mom in her home. 6 mo ago my son stepped up & now comes 5 days a wk for evening hours. (God bless him!) But I have come to the point that I need to move her to memory care. For her own safety mostly. As she "constantly" wants to "go home". She believes her parents (who both passed in the 1960's) need her help. She is anxious, angry and paranoid most of the time now. And she really doesn't know who I am. She mostly trusts me, except when I won't let her leave. Then she gets very angry. It's so hard. As I'm sure most of you know. We live in MN. She has no assets, even her home is a reverse mortgage, & only has social security income. So I have to do an application for elderly waiver (which I hear can take months) & wait for it to be approved. So.... While I am waiting I'm looking for advice about keeping her safe & me sane! I have alarms on the doors & they help a lot. But when she's really upset she breezes right through. (Usually while I'm using the bathroom) My son wanted to put padlocks on the doors at night. But I kind of felt funny about that. What do you think? His thought is that it would allow me to sleep sounder. As she often doesn't sleep for days so I don't either. Anyway, I would appreciate hearing from anyone. And I do have more questions. But no time now. Thank you!!!!