Caregiving now for 4 years.. recent infection, C-Dff, on way to clearing up has made it worse. Severe Dementia, although has moments of clarity. My biggest problem is the fecal incontinence, letting him do it alone in bathroom creates a huge mess, better off me changing him about 3 times a day. Cost is big too, throwing out towells and sweatpants almost daily now? Im in NYC, jointly own house with Pop, if I put him in nursing home, I;m homeless and he's 'warehoused' till he dies. He's 93, but, no real chronic physical problems. mostly mental which cause the incontinence, he gets frustated and agitated end up changing him every morning at 3AM? This is my 5th year and I think I;ll lose my mind sometimes and or end up ill?