My dad died three weeks ago from Alzheimer's complications, though I still don't know which complication and it does not matter I guess. Late at night the NH nurse called to say he had begun to go downhill around seven, and I thought her next words were going to be "so maybe you should come here" Instead she said, he passed away twenty minutes ago. I wondered why she didn't call me earlier in the evening when she determined he was going downhill. I am mad about that. But I would have wanted to be there to see him during his last hours. Maybe I wouldn't, I don't know. But would be nice knowing how he died. It wasn't due to lack of food, as he had been eating some. He did throw up food at lunch earlier in the day though. So don't know if that meant aspiration. I feel I have this need to know what actually killed him. We have not seen death certificates yet. What were his last hours and moments like? Was he suffering or unaware?