How can I assist dad during his toilet? He's a stroke victim who is increasingly unable to assist in movement.

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While he is not overweight, I find it difficult to maneuver him into position and replace his diaper upon completion of a movement.

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One other thing is I double diaper quite often and it makes it much easier to rip one diaper off when dirty and pull up the clean one. Just add another diaper when you can undress. Learned from one of my caregivers.

I attend a support group which is quite large and I find difficult to share with so many. Hopefully in time I can. I love this site as I learn so much and all of you are Saints for doing what you do.
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I use Fresh Again for the incontinent smell. Can be sprayed on the toilet or in the air. Also Calmoseptine Ointment for the diaper rash. I buy these items from NorthShore Care Supply but most likely you can buy from the drugstore. I use online shopping because I can buy in bulk and find it cheaper. Also hard for me to get out and about.
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SuziQ, on those days, tell her you love her and tell her you're sorry her life is so unpleasant. That might soften her up a bit. It's a hard job, isn't it?
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I hope I'm 10 years away from needing this advice, but after reading it, I'm a little less afraid of the future. Thanks!
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Oh another tip, I forgot is get some Destin to use. If you are going to use any type of underwear like Depends, personally, I like the Walgreen's brand better. But if your loved one is going to wear the underwear of any kind like Depends, you will want to have some Destin.

My mom gets a bit irritated sometimes because she wets herself while sleeping and even though we change right away when she wakes up, it gets a bit sore. We have tried other brands, but Destin does the best work.

Something else I forgot to mention.
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SuziQ, first what I do is use baby wipes to clean my mom's rear when does her business. I have found baby wipes are gentler and do a better job than regular toilet paper.

When it comes to cleaning things, I would take the riser off and put it in a bathtub of bleach. I take mom's port-a-potty and put it in the bathtub with hot bleach water.

My mom is always cold even when it is 90 outside. I think it has to do with her circulation, we just have her wear a sweater.

As for the pain, I am sorry that I can't help you with that, what does her doctor say?

My mom is in Stage 4 Alzheimer's and my mom get very mouthy at times. This morning mom woke up in what I call, "I want it my way" mood. She wants to do everything her way and she doesn't want to listen. Every time she waked up we don't know what we get.

I am fortunate that I have a friend that is now caring for her mom and I have other friends that have cared for their parents, so we have created our own support group. Plus the nice people on this site.
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All your information is so helpful. I'm worried when I have to start wiping my mother when she goes number 2 because she doesn't do a very good job, but she says she does. So stubborn. She also has a riser and a potty chair. The riser helps with when she pees, it would go thru the chair because it was so high up and had a gap. So I bought the riser to take up the space. But the riser smells so bad. It's hard plastic I smell it every time I come out of my bedroom. Does anyone know how to get rid of the smell? I've use Clorox wipes, but still smells. Also the doctor can't find a pain pill she can take without side effects like sleepiness or depression. Any ideas? She's in a lot of pain from a broken hip 2 yrs ago and degenerated discs. And she also has dementia. She said this morning that I took and washed her nightgown, but I didn't. It's on her bed. But it's not the one she always wears she said. And she's always cold in 90 degree weather and we are sweating. So I tell her to put on a sweater or blanket. But won't do it. I don't know how much more I can take. But I'm not as bad off as some of you wonderful people here. I went to a support group, a whole 4 people showed up. Not very informative. I get more info here. Thank you and keep up the good work. Bless you all.
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One word: Depends. Seriously, it sounds like he needs them and it will make it MUCH easier for all.
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The plastic donuts on toilets are popular but don't help in lifting. The flimsy railings you see in stores are scary. If he needs an assist there is a product that lifts the toilet seat 13" and tilts forward like a liftchair. Also has a sturdy railing that rises along with it so if he has any strength in the good leg he could stabilize himself while you assist with pullups, pants, etc. Google Stand Aid or connect me for more info as I am familar with them. They also have a commode version for bedside use.
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You do not say what you are using, but what I bought was a port-a-potty they are about $45 at the drug store. And they are adjustable in height. Then I go to Walmart and in the camping section they have biobags for camping toilets, I use these so I don't to do the cleaning of the container. I use one bag every day or two.

Then like one other person said, you want to get a gait belt, they are about $25 and can be good for holding on the individual. I find it helps me move my mom.

There are also underwear that have straps on both sides that might help and be easier to put on.

Other tips would be roll your dad to one side to put the underwear underneath him and roll him to do the other side.

In terms of padding, I use dog pee pads, they are just as good as the ones for adults but cheaper. I had some adult pads and they are very bulky, but we like the dog training pads, we call them pee pads. But you can get 50 of them at Walgreens for $9.99 and when they are on sale we get 2 for $15. For us these work better and save us money.

I don't know if money is a factor, but we get creative in what we do and work to save money.

With the port-a-potty, we can put it close to mom's bed and she can swing her legs out and use it as a walker. With the port-a-potty chair and the tools I mentioned we use this for my mom and my mom weighs about 200 pounds now perhaps more, she is not tall.

Also just so you know I have been doing this for 2 years. My mom has a broken leg that is not going to heal so she cannot walk on it and she has trouble standing on it. So she has no real major mobility of any kind. And now mom has Alzheimer's on top of everything.

So I understand mobility issues. My husband and I have gotten creative with her mobility issues to where we can travel with mom using our F250 and in a 5th wheel.

When it comes to bathing, we use a dishpan and she does the wash rag bathing until we are in a place with a handicap roll in shower. My mom's bathroom doorway is not wide enough for her wheelchair so her bathroom is off limits to her completely.

I wash her hair using a spray bottle and no rinse shampoo. I wet her hair and use a wash rag to scrub her head. Then I use the spray bottle to rinse and use a towel to dry. But I do take her to a hair dresser for hair cuts and they wash her hair from the wheelchair she is in.

But these are the tools I use, so we can assist my mom. If you have more questions, I am happy to share anything else we use. Like I said my mom has little to no mobility and we have been at this for 2 years so far, we are always looking for new creative ways of doing things. These have worked for us and we have not had bed sores or other challenges.

If you could use a laugh, we were on the road traveling when my mom had to go potty and there was no rest area in site. We stopped under an overpass and took mom potty on her potty chair. We used a blanket to hide her and her behind the wheel and door. We laughed and so did she, because when I was a small girl, she would make me use a coffee can by the wheel of the car. So we had a good laugh about that experience, but mom's potty chair has been with us to many places including cruises. If you don't have one it saves time and solves lots of problems.
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