Private funds are nearly gone and need a community that accepts Medicaid pay.

You will most likely be more disturbed about the move than LO will be.

againx100’s comment is the truth. Say whatever comforts and calms LO. Don’t try a lot of detail. The “whys” and “hows ” and even “wheres ” aren’t as important as the “whats ” at this point.

”I found you a wonderful new room with a view (a bigger closet, a GREAT chef, a music room......).

Don’t try to “prepare” LO, but the day of the move, try to allow enough time so that YOU are not having to rush. If you feel it would help, begin packing a day ahead.......“I’m taking some of your winter clothes to have them cleaned so they’ll be ready when the weather gets cooler again”.

If possible set up the new quarters to resemble the present room as much as possible. If NOT possible, put enough familiar objects in places where they’ll be visible and within reach- tooth brush and cup, pictures, piece or two of familiar clothing.

First day in new surroundings- point out one or two advantages to new room. Let new care staff know that you’re available to contact if problem(s) should arise. Expect extra confusion for (hopefully) a few days until parent begins to feel a little more comfortable in new surroundings.

Good luck to you both. My mother was moved from her original building to a new building in the same community. She sat like a statue for one day, but by the next day, had begun to relax.
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I guess it depends on how bad the dementia is. If it's very bad, they won't understand so you'll be OK to keep it very simple and probably use a theraputic lie of some sort. Blame it on the doctor. The doctor says you need to go to this new room for awhile. Just be calm and matter of fact.
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