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Best to all parties concerned-and keep in mind, an efficient caregiver also needs some "me time"---DON'T deprive yourself.
Hap
Another timely question for me. I am fixated on taking a mini-vacation with my daughter this summer. We have never had more than 2 overnights away a year in her life and now she is headed off to college. I have already started to introduce the idea to my mom - will get an agency in to check on her a couple times a day and have a wealth of friends who will be there for her if she needs anything. But, fear she will sabatoge at the last minute.
I take care of my Mom's finances and worry more about her investments than she does. But when I think about how much I am saving her by doing all that I do, I do not think it would be unreasonable to hire in-home help or take her to respite care for a few days. Could you imagine how our parent's resources would be impacted if they had to pay for all the care we provide for free? And that is my goal: to save Mom's assets so that she can stay in her home for as long as possible.
Bottom line, is that you are saving your Mom's assets by helping her out. Going to respite care is a "medical" issue and that is certainly a legitimate expense. Don't worry about it and do it more often so she realizes that you have respect for yourself and your health.
Ruth