After having the flu my husband went to rehab, I told his son that I needed help taking care of him (thinking they might help getting help in the home) while he was in rehab the doctor said he was unable to make decisions at this time so their poa went into effect and they immediately put him in assisted living. The son that has financial poa told my daughter that they were going to have to sell our house to pay for assisted living so I packed my things and came to Oregon with my daughter so I would have a place to live before I was evicted. I talked to him everyday but about a week ago he no longer has his phone. He was recently diagnosed with bladder cancer metastasis to pelvis and bone and started on hospice on Monday. The boys seem to be isolating him from me. I call the facility and they said I have to contact my husbands son to see what his care is with hospice or how is he feeling today. I call his son and get no response. My daughter and I will be driving the 10 hours to see him next Thursday. My husbands son said that I had asked for an annulment and I had abandoned my husband this is so untrue. I am so afraid they are telling untruths to my husbands son as well . I am so stressed out and there is no way I can contact him. Has anyone had a similar situation?
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You also might have to swallow some nonsense with the sons in order to see your husband before he dies, but I wouldn't sign anything they gave me unless an attorney saw it and said it was ok. I am serious. Preserve your rights asap.
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Please see an attorney immediately as blocking is a red flag to courts and you may have strong legal recourse, trust or no trust.
Unfortunately, this power struggle scenario that can play out in blended families, especially if the marriage happened later in their lives and especially if you didn't have a good or close relationship with his children.
Please have tempered expectations that the facility may not allow you to visit him if his sons gave them instructions to deny you access. You won't get in just because you are the spouse. While back in that original home state you should see an attorney.