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Michelle2025 Asked May 18, 2025

I am my youngest brothers caregiver. He is on long term care. He is resisting my care and Dr.'s care. He's fired me. And has gone next door.

He is mentally and physically impaired.Increasingly raging. Drinking, smoking, verbally abusive. I've called the Sheriff's twice for retaliation. I've refused to allow him to bring beer and alcohol into my home. He threw a case of beer into the refrigerator, damaging all the shelves. He sliced new tire with a razor knife. He's taken me off his care plan with Simply/Medicaid plan.His case manager has been notified of everything, every time of this problem.I get nothing from her. I started Therapy because my anxiety is out of control. My health at this age of 71 can not afford this sort of abuse.He is in self neglect obviously, and his hygiene has become awful. Urinating on the bathroom floor, mold in the bathtub, etc. His bedroom is a rats nest.My Therapist suggested the Marchman Act. I need advice. I need to get him proper help.Thank youHe never allows me in...

Geaton777 May 18, 2025
It seems he lives with you. Now that he's voluntarily left, change the locks so he can't come back in. Take pictures of his disgusting rooms. Video his behaviors. Call 911 when he's being verbally or physially abusive (or threatening it). Tell the responders he is resisting care and you are afraid for your life. They will hopefully take him to the ER and do a social admit (or Baker Act him). A problem is that your home is his legal residence so you will need to evict him to get him permanently out, if APS/social services don't get him into a facility. What is "next door"? Who is next door? Family, friend, neighbor? They won't host him for long so you need to act fast... "In a hospital, a 'social admit' refers to an admission where the primary reason for hospitalization is not related to a medical or health condition, but rather to address social factors like homelessness, lack of housing, or the need for shelter. Essentially, it's a hospitalization driven by non-medical needs, often involving patients who lack the resources to manage their situation outside of a hospital setting." "To 'Baker Act' someone means to have them involuntarily committed to a mental health facility .... This act allows for emergency services and temporary detention for individuals who may be mentally ill and pose a threat to themselves or others. "

funkygrandma59 May 18, 2025
Yes, call APS and let them and the state take over his care from here on out.
And get a restraining order against him if necessary.

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Fawnby May 18, 2025
Change your locks. Get help from an agency, such as APS. Do not talk to him. Block his number on your phone. Get a protective order from the police and if he violates it, call them immediately.

He's mentally ill and out of control, as you've observed. You must take this seriously and protect yourself. Otherwise you risk attack, injury, and becoming a statistic on the evening news.

I'm glad you've realized that he's not okay, and I wish you luck.

JoAnn29 May 18, 2025
Seems the the Marchman's Act is voluntary so that will not work with your brother.

«The Marchman Act provides for voluntary admissions and involuntary assessment, stabilization, and treatment of adults and youth who are severely impaired due to substance abuse."

Is he in your home now? If not, do not allow him back in. If he comes back call the police and tell them you are afraid of him and he needs to be baker acted. If this happens refuse to take him back. Tell the Social Worker that the State will need to take over his care, you can no longer do it. He is out of control.

Call APS now and tell them he has fired you, that you can no longer have him in your house, that at 71 you can no longer care for him. He needs help you cannot give.
MiaMoor May 18, 2025
The information you have quoted shows that the Marchman Act is for both voluntary and involuntary help.

I am making an assumption here, but it seems that if an involuntary assessment shows an admission is required, then it will take place. However, it would be an infringement of rights to make an involuntary admission without proof it is needed.

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