Moving mom out of state, what might I not be planning for?

I would start by investigating whether it's true that the facility will only let her call you once a week and if so, why that is. Does she have her own phone? If you can arrange to call or facetime with her every day, would that calm her down while you continue to explore options?

Also, have you talked with the staff about why she stopped PT? Maybe she could benefit from antidepressant or anti-anxiety medications.

I hope you are able to do the transfer, but if so it will probably take time. I agree with the others about consulting an attorney with expertise in this area.

Jbyrd, Medicaid DOES NOT cross state lines.

Your mom would have to become a resident of the new state to even apply for Medicaid.

Also, if mom is on an advantage plan as her Medicare coverage, you will need to verify if it crosses county lines, many DO NOT.

I would definitely spend the money to consult with a Medicaid knowledgable attorney, this is probably going to be a Certified elder law attorney, you can find one by going to www.nelf.org and choose one in the state mom will be moving too.

I would suggest getting an Elder Attorney.

I got the same answer from a local nursing home. "We only take post-hospital admissions." The problem is that my mother isn't PHYSICALLY sick. Other than her dementia-riddled brain, that is.

The nursing home people weren't interested in my offer to private pay for 6 months before my mother runs out of money and would need Medicaid.

I went to an elder attorney today, and they said that they have ways and contacts and the know-how to make this happen.

I will be using my mother's money to pay for this service, and am happy to give up my fruitless, disheartening search.

Sigh.

I'm not having any luck currently because every facility I talk to close by says they take hospital patients as priority. She is on multiple waiting lists but if a hospital patient needs a bed they get top priority.

I would go up to our aging care timeline above and use the search bar to look at recent answers, especially from Igloo, regarding all the difficulties involved in such a plan. It is much more trying on every level, legal, physical, mental and as regards residency laws and etc than you might imagine.

Search keywords would be "moving resident out of state". Best of luck. I can find a lot of former questions and answers with those exact words.

This will take a lot of research on your part. Start with your facility's social workers for a discussion how to pursue.

Are you "having no luck" because there are waiting lists? Or there are no facilities near you that accept Medicaid residents? Your Mom might be a candidate for LTC, which is covered in facilities by Medicaid, along with the financial qualification. I would invest in a phone call to Medicaid to see what their thoughts are on this. I say "invest" because the wait time can be 2 hours but if you know this in advance, you'll be prepared. That's how long I waited when my MIL's Medicaid was denied due to some confusion over a pre-paid cremation purchase. I was able to talk to an actual person who knew what they were doing and remedied it right while we were on the phone.