Gentleman I’ve taken care of, friends for yrs too,, has left me a few things, In Writing,, but are not listed in the will. Actually (2) letters. Are these items legally mine now that he has passed ??
No, they are not legally yours. Sadly they remain a part of the estate. If these things are not of value then I would approach the family or executor and present the letter. I would say that you loved this gentleman, and that he promised you these things, and that--provided they are not of value or otherwise to the family--you would love to have them. I would leave the letter with them, and I would leave these things in their/to their discretion.
Were it me, and were these things not of sentimental value to me, I would gladly give them to you. It is up to the family. In truth, this person, to whom you gave loving care, will be with you in your heart; you do not need "things" to remember this loved one by.
I think your note to us serves as a lesson. I, at 82, have already given away most of my things. It's pretty clear at this point they aren't going to go with me. I wish more people would give lovely things they treasure to people who they believe will love and treasure them ongoing.
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If these things are not of value then I would approach the family or executor and present the letter. I would say that you loved this gentleman, and that he promised you these things, and that--provided they are not of value or otherwise to the family--you would love to have them. I would leave the letter with them, and I would leave these things in their/to their discretion.
Were it me, and were these things not of sentimental value to me, I would gladly give them to you. It is up to the family. In truth, this person, to whom you gave loving care, will be with you in your heart; you do not need "things" to remember this loved one by.
I think your note to us serves as a lesson. I, at 82, have already given away most of my things. It's pretty clear at this point they aren't going to go with me. I wish more people would give lovely things they treasure to people who they believe will love and treasure them ongoing.
Take care.
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