I feel more like my mother's servant than her daughter.

joyofcolor, welcome to the forum. When you get a chance, please fill out your Profile page, that will give us a better understanding of your situation. One thing I noticed with my own elder parents was that they still viewed me as still being in my 30's and 40's with a lot of energy instead of being a senior citizen myself.


At the top of the page you will see a blue/green bar... click on the CARE TOPICS which has a lot of excellent articles. Feel free to write on the forum as much as you want, there are many of us current/former caregivers here to help you with this complex journey :)

I know how you feel. It's cruel and not fair. All you can do is set boundaries and not feel guilty about it. Mom needs to hire help and pay for it herself. Slavery was abolished after the Civil War.
Start looking into alternatives before you totally burn yourself out.
You deserve better. Stop being a caregiver slave and screwing your own life doing it.

One would wonder, then, why you, as a grown adult, have made the decision to continue doing something that is working so badly for your own life?
Can you tell us?

I welcome you as a new member. I can only hope you will stick around and you will soon learn that many have learned, here, to make different choices for their lives.

Thank you for your responses. I do appreciate being able to ask the community about their experiences. I am working on solutions to not take her negative comments to heart.

I am trying to rethink the situation and find my own space to live in.

Elders tend to take for granted what their chipdren do for them, feeling its "owed" to them and they're entitled to it. Welcome to eldercare. I agree with S outhernwaver, what do you intend to do about this situation? Things only get worse as the loved one ages and thevailments pile up.

HUGS. Caregiving is very hard and is unsustainable.

What will you do about this?