Hiring a full-time, live-in caregiver. Looking for examples of sample schedules and any general advice. Thanks!

It is not a good idea to make the caregiver 100% completely responsible for your grandfather. Is there a local contact? Someone with POA who can make themselves visible at the residence and who has legal authority to make decisions? What happens if one of the caregivers fall ill or injured and has to be hospitalized? Who steps in to cover?

I did this line of work for 25 years and I own a homecare agency. I will tell you honestly. If it's too late for AL it's too late for homecare and I would strongly advise you not do this. Put your grandfather in a nursing home or a memory care facility.

We had two people who covered seven days a week for eight hours a day. Not nearly enough but it was what our mother could afford.

Our plan was to wait for a health crisis and hospitalization and then into a NH. That finally did happen in August 2023 thankfully.

This was not what my mother wanted but there were no other good choices.

So, after spending half a day with us, the candidate for "live-in caregiver" is now ghosting me. Sigh. Back to square one.
I agree with those who believe AL of SNF is the best move for Grandpa at this point ... I just cant get him to agree to see his pcp (or any doctor for that matter). He doesn't listen to me, and my Mom is the only one who can get him to agree to things he doesn't want to do. When she comes back next month, we will figure out a solution that works for everyone.
In the meantime, I have PSWs who come daily (provided by the Canadian government) and ones that I hire privately for days when I need respite.

Cheers everyone! Happy Canada day from Toronto!

I am so glad you mentioned that you live in Canada and aides are independent contractors. Here is the US, IRS does not allow that. They are emplyees and as such those hiring need to deduct payroll taxes. I think there is a way to get around that but can't remember what it is.

I suggest that when mom returns to take over the caregiving duties that you keep the caregiver for days.
You find it exhausting and I am guessing (cuz this is how life works) that you are younger than your mom. (insert laugh here) I would think that it will be exhausting for your mom even more so than you.
Keeping the caregiver for days gives mom a break during the day and generally speaking caregiving at night is a bit easier.
And by that time your grandpa will be used to the routine that the caregiver has and will be used to the way she/he does things.
By the way good job in finding someone that you can trust to do a good job. A word of caution though. Remove ALL sensitive papers. Remove anything of value. A lock box sounds good but they can be picked up easily and taken. A larger safe is a lot more difficult to move. It does not have to be real large, the one I got is about 17 inches square. (outside dimensions) Plenty of room for papers and any smaller valuables.
If the caregiver needs a credit card get a prepaid one that can be "reloaded" and monitor purchases.

Good luck with this plan, sounds more like a cause for assisted living. Poor Mom. Sorry to say, you will probably be back in Toronto in a few months.

...my mom expects to be back in Toronto soon and take over caregiving duties. So the live-in situation is only temporary? How long do you think it will be? One month? 2? More? So, if the live-in gets sick, you will be the sub? If not, then what's the plan for that situation? What if the live-in isn't working out and you want to let them go? Here in the US if a person gets their mail someplace then that is their legal residence. If they don't move voluntarily then they have to be evicted, which costs money and takes a minimum of 30 days. Make sure to have a written contract (even if they are a "contract" worker), have the situation covered by extra liability insurance (if necessary in Canada) and have a back-up plan that can be quickly put into place if things don't work out like expected. My husband and I had our own business with employees and contractor workers so I'm just thinking like an employer...