When is it time to move spouse to assisted living or memory care?

When you have to ask the question. Then you know it's time, or actually past time.

*When* will be different for every couple, for every family.

For my friend it is when a hoist is required for transfers. She works fulltime (still not retirement age & mortgage to pay).

For others it is behavior or wandering or non-bathing or incontinence.

If you are asking this question, you must have some concerns.

Start looking at facilities. Pick one that is suitable and speak to them about pricing and the services that they provide.

Best wishes to you and your loved one.

Get an evaluation for palliative care.. talk with his doctor..

I know I would not be able to maneuver spouse at all. Nor would it be appreciated.

SO, OFF TO AL I shall GO... Why not? I will have my own personal chef, no more cleaning dishes, laundry, etc... I can be catered to... :)

Incontinence should be the line in the sand for most if not all. Any kind of need for 24/7 care as well.

Is he mobile at all? Or, do you have to assist him up, down? to and fro?

I am thinking I may need to take a nursing class to see how to maneuver people correctly without hurting us.

Gait belt, walker, crutches, sound cancelling headphones.. patience, really loud stereo.. sense of humor... in my brain... a mute button or filter button,, push first before talking... a spine with feathers.. or however that saying goes, about how ducks take to water... the water doesn't saturate the ducks...

visit facilities when you can and repeat... baby steps, get acquainted to the idea of placing a loved one in a facility...

Do not allow that Wall of Guilt to build up...It takes more time to break it down...